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Just like anyone else.</p> </div>  <div id="content">  <div id="main"><div id="main2"> <h2 class="date-header">Sunday, February 18, 2007</h2>  <div class="post"><a name="117183508001070156"></a> <h3 class="post-title"> Yeah, I'll bet you wish </h3> <div class="post-body"> <div> <div style="clear:both;"></div><a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2007/02/18/magazine/18autistic.t.html?_r=1&pagewanted=1&oref=slogin">Her Autistic Brothers</a> from the New York Times.<br /><br />There's a list of things that I sometimes wonder that I've never actually come out and asked the people in question. The main one is that every time I see these things, I wonder if my brother sometimes wished or wishes he had another sibling instead of me.<br /><br />Not that I'm clear on that front. When he was on the way, I wanted a younger sister and, according to family legend, one of the first things I asked about him was if we could trade him for a girl.<br /><br />But just in general, I've never asked if he wished he had a non-autistic sibling, or a completely straight/cisgendered sibling, or whatever.<br /><br />Mostly because I'm pretty certain that, if I asked straight out and he was being honest in his response, his answer would be 'yes'. Not because we don't love each other, just because life was sometimes difficult. Or maybe because I'm constantly being told that that's what siblings of disabled and/or weird kids wish. Or maybe both.<br /><br /><small>Ryan Adams, Two Black Roses</small><div style="clear:both; padding-bottom:0.25em"></div> </div> </div> <p class="post-footer"> <em>posted by Mat at <a href="http://just-like-anyone.blogspot.com/2007/02/yeah-ill-bet-you-wish.html" title="permanent link">2/18/2007 04:35:00 PM</a></em> <span class="item-control blog-admin pid-1380168333"><a style="border:none;" href="https://www.blogger.com/post-edit.g?blogID=28173247&postID=117183508001070156&from=pencil" title="Edit Post"><img class="icon-action" alt="" src="https://resources.blogblog.com/img/icon18_edit_allbkg.gif" height="18" width="18"></a></span> </p> </div>   <div id="comments"> <a name="comments"></a> <h4>3 Comments:</h4> <dl id="comments-block"> <dt class="comment-poster" id="c117183825591537347"><a name="c117183825591537347"></a> <span style="line-height:16px" class="comment-icon blogger-comment-icon"><img src="https://resources.blogblog.com/img/b16-rounded.gif" alt="Blogger" style="display:inline;" /></span> <a href="https://www.blogger.com/profile/05828186178060722812" rel="nofollow">Maddy</a> said... </dt> <dd class="comment-body"> <p>If you ever pluck up the courage to ask and if he's brave enough to answer, would you consider sharing?<BR/>Best wishes</p> </dd> <dd class="comment-timestamp"><a href="#117183825591537347" title="comment permalink">5:37 PM</a> <span class="item-control blog-admin pid-199575241"><a style="border:none;" href="https://www.blogger.com/comment/delete/28173247/117183825591537347" title="Delete Comment" ><span class="delete-comment-icon"> </span></a></span> </dd> <dt class="comment-poster" id="c117184281428510122"><a name="c117184281428510122"></a> <span style="line-height:16px" class="comment-icon blogger-comment-icon"><img src="https://resources.blogblog.com/img/b16-rounded.gif" alt="Blogger" style="display:inline;" /></span> <a href="https://www.blogger.com/profile/08157110032181571303" rel="nofollow">Mat</a> said... </dt> <dd class="comment-body"> <p>If I ever do, and he agrees to let me share, I probably will.</p> </dd> <dd class="comment-timestamp"><a href="#117184281428510122" title="comment permalink">6:53 PM</a> <span class="item-control blog-admin pid-1380168333"><a style="border:none;" href="https://www.blogger.com/comment/delete/28173247/117184281428510122" title="Delete Comment" ><span class="delete-comment-icon"> </span></a></span> </dd> <dt class="comment-poster" id="c4032895889723134121"><a name="c4032895889723134121"></a> <span style="line-height:16px" class="comment-icon anon-comment-icon"><img src="https://resources.blogblog.com/img/anon16-rounded.gif" alt="Anonymous" style="display:inline;" /></span> <span class="anon-comment-author">Anonymous</span> said... </dt> <dd class="comment-body"> <p>Interesting to know.</p> </dd> <dd class="comment-timestamp"><a href="#4032895889723134121" title="comment permalink">7:00 AM</a> <span class="item-control blog-admin pid-1010823634"><a style="border:none;" href="https://www.blogger.com/comment/delete/28173247/4032895889723134121" title="Delete Comment" ><span class="delete-comment-icon"> </span></a></span> </dd> </dl> <p class="comment-timestamp"> <a class="comment-link" href="https://www.blogger.com/comment/fullpage/post/28173247/117183508001070156">Post a Comment</a> </p> <p class="comment-timestamp"> <a href="http://just-like-anyone.blogspot.com/"><< Home</a> </p> </div>  </div></div>   <div id="sidebar"><div id="sidebar2">  <div id="profile-container"><h2 class="sidebar-title">About Me</h2> <dl class="profile-datablock"> <dd class="profile-data"><strong>Name:</strong> <a rel="author" href="https://www.blogger.com/profile/08157110032181571303"> Mat </a></dd> </dl> <p class="profile-link"><a rel="author" href="https://www.blogger.com/profile/08157110032181571303">View my complete profile</a></p></div>  <h2 class="sidebar-title">Previous Posts</h2> <ul id="recently"> <li><a href="http://just-like-anyone.blogspot.com/2007/01/as-long-as-youre-not-dumb-enough-to.html">As long as you're not dumb enough to actually try ...</a></li> <li><a href="http://just-like-anyone.blogspot.com/2007/01/anyone-can-play-guitar.html">Anyone can play guitar...</a></li> <li><a href="http://just-like-anyone.blogspot.com/2006/05/they-ask-me-where-hell-im-going.html">They ask me where the hell I'm going?</a></li> <li><a href="http://just-like-anyone.blogspot.com/2006/05/so-story-begins.html">So the story begins</a></li> </ul> <a href="http://www.last.fm/user/ElJuno/?chartstyle=minimalDark"><img src="http://imagegen.last.fm/minimalDark/tracks/ElJuno.gif" border="0" /></a> <p id="powered-by"><a href="http://www.blogger.com"><img src="http://buttons.blogger.com/bloggerbutton1.gif" alt="Powered by Blogger" /></a></p>  </div></div>  </div>   <div id="footer"><hr /> <p> </p> </div>  </body> </html>